Creating your own jar of happiness rocks can be an easy way to add a little more happiness into your everyday life and get you thinking about what truly makes you happy.
During a recent trip to Puerto Rico with some blogging besties, we started talking about happiness and what it is that truly makes us happy. Not happy as in, oh that was fun I’d love to do it again, but really happy. I may not have found happiness in Puerto Rico, but it gave me the motivation to try to find it back at home.
I can’t say that I’ve felt overly happy the past few years. With post-partum depression, being stuck in a waiting pattern, and not feeling great about my health, it’s been a rough few years. Coming up with things that make me happy during our conversation was pretty easy. I did a happiness project a while back after reading the book The Happiness Project (affiliate link) and the things I named back then, those are still mostly the things that make me happiest.
The problem is that I’m not doing any of those things anymore.
Those things that make me happy have been pushed aside to make room for other things. For blogging. For watching TV. For other things that at the day of the end do nothing to add to my happiness.
A couple of days after I got back from Puerto Rico I taught a young women’s lesson all about our purpose in life and the overall theme of my lesson was about happiness, what happiness truly is, and how we can find happiness in our life.
And I felt like such an impostor.
Here I was teaching these 12-13 year old girls about being happy, doing things that bring them happiness, and what happiness is when I wasn’t living any of the things that I was teaching. As they answered questions in the Happy Land board game I created, I realized the problem is that I’m just staring at the game board of life hoping that maybe miraculously my pawn will get from start to the happy land space at the finish line.
But the game doesn’t work that way. And life doesn’t work that way either We have to choose a new card, we have to make a decision, and we have to move one space at a time toward our ultimate destination of happiness. It’s a scientific law; if we aren’t moving, we’ll never make it from here to there.
When it comes down to it, there are 12 things that make me the happiest. You’ve all probably seen the object lesson where if you put big rocks in a jar first, you can fit all of the little ones in after but if you put all the little ones in first, the big ones don’t all fit.
Over the next few months, I am going to do another happiness project of my own, but it’s going to be a little different this time around. My big rocks are going to be the 12 things that make me happiest and all those little rocks, well they’ll be everything else and they may or may not make it into the jar. Because if I’m not going to do it all, I want my jar filled with happiness.
As I taught my girls, one of the main purposes of this life is for us to have joy and to be happy and if I’m not working toward that, then what am I working toward?
As part of my happiness rocks experiement, I’m going to use my “rocks” to make decisions on how I spend my time each day. I’ve decided what my 12 rocks are and as I’m making decisions on what to do each day, I’ll weigh them against my rocks. And if they aren’t an essential (eating, sleeping, etc.) and they don’t fall into one of these categories, I’m going to let them go. Because letting things go is one of my happiness rocks and with too much on my plate every moment of every day, I could afford to let go of a few more things.
Do Your Own Happiness Rocks Project:
- Sit down and choose a short list of things that make you the happiest. Short list meaning between 10-15.
- Write those words on rocks that all fit nicely into a jar without anything else added to it.
- Put that jar full of rocks in a place that you can see it on a daily basis, preferably wherever you write your to-do list.
- As you’re planning out your week, month, and even year use your happiness rocks as a way to guide your decisions. My rocks are obviously more broad to give me a little bit of flexibility, just do whatever works best for you.